5 Actionable Ways to Cultivate Self Love – This February and Beyond
1. Every day, list off the great things that happened to you.
Most nights before I go to bed, I list aloud the things that happened to me that day that I am grateful for. It’s easy to forget all the love, kindness and compassion we are shown by others every day. And that makes it easy to forget how fortunate we are. And forget how much there is to love about ourselves. Take time to acknowledge and give appreciation for even the smallest fortunes that come into your life. Getting that promotion, making a new friend or even receiving a compliment from a stranger. By taking time to appreciate the little wonders that happen to us, we are reminded just how lucky we are to be in our own skin.
2. Identify your strengths. And drive your energy toward them.
I believe Einsten was right: “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Try identifying what your magical powers are – the qualities you possess and thrive under. Rather than trying to determine this yourself, ask friends, family members and those who work closely with you to tell you what they believe your strengths are. Start noticing what others off-handedly compliment you on. Identify what you’re good at, do more of it and become even better at it.
3. Treat your body as your most valued possession.
Your body is the greatest instrument you will ever own. Treat it as such. Nourish your body with healthy foods, instead of punishing it. Look in the mirror each day and acknowledge something about your body that you absolutely love. This might feel vain at first, but you deserve it! Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way and nothing radiates more beautifully than confidence. Take time to embrace your outline and the little quirks about your face and figure that distinguish you.
4. Meditate with mantras.
I’ve found meditation to be an incredible tool for self-love, positivity and fulfillment, all of which are interconnected. Cultivate a daily meditation practice of 2 minutes 3 times daily -- once when you wake up, once in the afternoon and once before bed. Recite mental mantras during this meditations that contribute to a sense of self-love and worthiness. Such mantras might be, “I am enough.” “All I need is within me.” “I am worthy.” These very simple mantras when practiced intentionally help us begin to cultivate more sub-conscious positive self-talk. Making that inner dialogue happier, more self-love.
5. Ask yourself the right questions.
Self-love is the practice of seeing the circumstances of your life on the bright side. Negativity is an act of self-harm and so often, a self-fulfilling prophecy. When something happens to you that you didn’t expect or that you initially see as upsetting, try to take a step back to see the potential upsides of this situation. Ask yourself: Could this open your eyes to something new or better? What am I actually afraid of here? One year from now, will this situation matter? Often times, what feels like failure or misstep is simply a redirection.
Sam Emrich is the Founder & Chief Content Creator of CatchingDragonfly.com, a NYC-based yoga & wellness blog, and a corporate yoga instructor.
A proponent of the office yoga revolution, Sam believes in the power of living your yoga beyond the studio. Find Sam asana catching and office om-ing on Instagram.