The Cool Aunt - An Uplifting Personal Story
Even after eight years, I’ll never forget it. The memory will stick with me forever. “It will be a miracle if you can ever conceive a baby. It’ll be an even bigger miracle if you can even carry a baby to term.” To a woman who has dreamt of being a mother almost her entire life, hearing those words from your gynecologist are nothing less than crushing.
After countless uncomfortable procedures and one surgery, I resigned myself to the fact that it just wasn’t happening in my future. Wave after wave of emotion knocked me down as I went through the stages of grief, and it seemed only to be aggravated around this time of year, Mother’s Day. Well-meaning friends reminded me that miracles happen and looked into their crystal balls and said, “Don’t worry, it’ll happen”. I just wanted to kick them in the shins! I had become bitter and angry and I neither wanted nor needed their words of comfort. What I needed was to find some inner peace and acceptance with my situation.
Finding that peace and acceptance wasn’t easy and certainly didn’t happen overnight. In addition to the strength I find to ride out these waves in my Surfer Mala, I finally found that crucial balance in my life by learning this equally crucial lesson: babies are born from the womb but maternity is born from the soul.
It’s been a beautiful and constant practice of mine to accept and, most importantly, love my role as a non-mom. Just like others in similar situations, I’ve been blessed with so many kiddos who call me aunt.
Some are related to me. Some aren’t. But regardless of the bloodline, I get to fulfill a needed role in their life, and they, in turn, fulfill a needed role in my own. They bless me with maternal opportunities that feed my soul and make an empty womb seem like less of a sadness.
Whether you are a mother, are desperately waiting to be one, or are that favorite aunt, seek out the opportunities to honor your soul and fill a maternal need. Afterall, it does take a village.
Dory Knight is a passionate blogger who encourages her readers to #ChooseHappiness through a healthy lifestyle.
She writes about and lives a lifestyle full of clean eating, meditation, MMA, yoga, and loves being a gym rat. She invites you on her own personal journey through fitness, yoga, mindfulness, and meditation shared on Instagram and her blogs TheFitBeast and TheYogaBeast.